Overwhelming sadness or grief is a natural emotion when we experience the loss of a loved one. We see if all the time: on the news, in movies, and it happens to people we know. However, when it happens to us personally, we are rarely prepared.
Dealing with the depth of our feelings can be very difficult. The grieving process must take its course for us to heal. However, if those feelings of sadness continue and begin to prevent us from functioning in our daily lives, some assistance may be required.
Loss is unfortunately inevitable and thus, unavoidable. Each of us will eventually lose someone or something. This creates a natural emotional response that we call grief. It is normal and healthy to feel.
This grieving process will typically inspire us to move forward in our own lives with a renewed appreciation for our loved ones and even life itself. Healthy grief may create in us a sense of compassion for all things, because our loss makes us vividly aware of the fragility of life.
It can be hard to appreciate (much less be grateful for) this painful part of our existence. Occasionally, people get “stuck” in their experience of grief that, in turn, hardens their hearts and makes them bitter. When we experience such “bitter grief,” we suffer unnecessarily. We create needless pain for ourselves and those around us when we replay the memories of our loss again and again. Continuing to review these memories may create thoughts of hopelessness and despair. Such grief is unhealthy and similar to the activities of the subconscious mind that creates Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The habit of thought may become too powerful for your conscious mind to change. However, with the skillful use of hypnotic trance states, we can eliminate this need to produce the endless suffering of grief.
For some, the grieving process does not improve over time and may even become worse. If this is the case for you, and you are experiencing:
- continued feelings of emptiness, hopelessness, anger and blame
- have frequent intrusive thoughts about the person or thing you have lost
- experience preoccupation with your grief
- find that almost everyone and everything is a reminder of your loss
You may be unable to go about your daily routine or function normally. If this is the case, there are numerous “healing modalities” that may help you to identify what is causing this “complicated grief” and help you release and overcome it.
No matter what your personal beliefs are, you can connect with the love of a person even after their death. You can learn to experience this closeness and let your grief begin to subside.
Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) and hypnosis are excellent help for bereavement, because the techniques are able to teach you how you can consciously decide to think a certain way about your loss. Your mind is powerful, and changing its thought patterns from sadness and anger to love and memories can go a long way toward help with bereavement. Through grief hypnosis, you will still have your memories – but they will be less charged with painful feelings, allowing you to be able to talk openly, should you wish, without the fear of being overcome by gushing emotions.
I am experienced in a number of techniques which provide you with healing and, in certain circumstances, with closure.
Hypnotic therapies help you to begin to move on, to begin to live your life again and to learn to enjoy yourself once more without feeling guilty. It allows you to find ways to remember the person, or pet or thing you have lost, and to still feel that they are part of you and part of your life.
You might have heard the different stages or phases of grief, something that the mourner must pass through; however, it doesn’t have to be passive. There are things you can actively do to adapt to your loss. Mourning is a process and not a state.
For more information about how I can help you cope with grief and loss please contact me for your free consultation. When you start feeling the sadness and grief lift and a peaceful calm take its place you will be glad you did!